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6 Tips for Dealing with a Premenstrual Girlfriend

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Women can be cranky a week before, during, and for up to three weeks after their periods because of the hormonal fluctuations of their monthly cycle. That doesn't leave much normal time, but with the right approach, you can make it work for both of you. Here are some ways to be more supportive and understanding toward your girlfriend when she's experiencing symptoms of premenstrual syndrome (PMS). Steps
  1. Do not allow her to use this as a crutch. Remind her how ridiculous she thinks it is when you overreact to your 'emotions' after a football game.
  2. Mark the time on a calendar (that only you will see) when you believe she will be pre-menstrual. Do this every month. Knowing that she's pre-menstrual may help you to be more patient with her.
  3. Don't ever, ever openly attribute her emotional malaise to her period. Even if you know she's (almost) on her period, even if you see the same exact symptoms every month, keep that observation to yourself. Many women - especially when in a bad mood - will take offense to your assumption that the reason she's upset is because it's "that time of the month". Since she's sensitive, she might feel like you're discrediting or dismissing her opinion by attributing it to her period.
  4. Be patient. Dealing with anybody on a short fuse can be trying. If she snaps at you, or does something to get under your skin, don't lose your temper and fight back. It won't do any good, and it'll probably just make things worse, possibly erupting into a huge argument over nothing. Just take a deep breath and ignore whatever she just did that bothered you. Remember that she's not normally like this, and it's only temporary. See also How to Defuse an Argument.
  5. Listen to her, even if she's not making any sense. Look for what she's really telling you. If she's complaining about something that's never bothered her before, what she's really saying is "I feel like crap and there's nothing I can do about it, so I'm looking for something else to change and hoping that will make me feel better."
  6. 'Once a month act like you are out of your mind.
  7. Don't take it personally. During this time, her emotions might get the best of her, and she might question your relationship. She might question you. As mentioned in the previous step, she's feeling helpless, and sometimes when people feel helpless they look for other things they can control, and that might mean pushing your buttons or triggering your emotions. Your best defense against this is to remain level-headed and calmly say, "Ok, I understand." What you really understand is that you're still the same person she enjoyed before PMS took control, and her change in perception of you is probably temporary.
  8. Exercise compassion. Think about a time when physical changes made you cranky. Was there ever an instance when you weren't getting enough sleep, and you became rather abrasive as a result? Or maybe you were in the hospital, and the chronic pain made you severely irritable. Put yourself in her shoes. Not only might she be experiencing bothersome physical symptoms, but her hormones are also ebbing and flowing, making it very difficult for her to know how she feels or what she wants. Think of the effect testosterone has had on you in the past, like when you get sexually aroused, or on any occasion when you felt aggression or rage (especially in your teenage years). For that time, you feel caught up in a wave, as if you don't have control. That's probably how she feels.
  9. Be forgiving and reassuring. Her insecurities are likely to come up around this delicate point in her cycle, and there's the potential for a negative feedback loop: She feels insecure, so she behaves irritably, which makes you not want to be around her, which "confirms" her insecurity. Many girls will feel insecure about their bodies, and about your feelings for them. Try to give her a few extra compliments, and be more affectionate, even if you feel like your girlfriend is possessed by a demon that's out to ruin your week.
Tips
  • Prepare for extreme reactions, in both directions. If you're nice to her, she might question your intentions, or not take notice, or even cry tears of joy.
  • While some girls don't want to to be physically intimate during their period, others may crave it, especially if it makes them feel emotionally and physically better. If you're uncomfortable with having sex during her period, read How to Have Sex During Your Period for some helpful options. An alternative to sex, however, would be to give her a back massage or foot rub.
  • If your wife/girlfriend is especially sensitive to PMS, it pays to keep track of her periods so you know when to follow these steps before a conflict ensues.
  • If you know her cycle and one day she's just really emotional when it isn't that time of the month, remember there could be other reasons. On some occasions, women may experience cramps at other times of the month (such as ovulation cramps, or implantation cramps if she gets pregnant). It may also be that she is going through another kind of physical pain, but more likely it is something else altogether.

Get a calendar. Mark it and pay attention to it. Every guy should have one and will learn what to expect and when. There is an iPhone app for that, usually for fertility planning but it works the same.

Warnings
  • Don't try to blame your relationship issues on your girlfriend's period. This is just immature. If she really suffers from PMS, that's just a few days out of a whole month. Dig deeper to find the real core of your problems.


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How to Make a Cupcake Wedding Cake

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Cupcakes are all the rage, even Martha Stewart agrees! Using cupcakes as an alternative to the traditional large, tiered wedding cake is not only chic and trendy, it's also great for your budget. Add to that the fact that the cupcake wedding cake is doable for even the most novice baker, with the added benefit that the cupcakes can be made and frozen ahead of time, the cupcake wedding cake is a sensible and creative choice. Here is how to prepare your own cupcake wedding cake. Steps
  1. This cupcake cake shows a mini cake at the top which the bride and groom can keep after the wedding Determine the number of guests. It is very important not to underestimate this part; while not everyone will want a piece of traditional wedding cake, almost everyone will want a cupcake!
    • Do you want enough for guests to have one (or more) cupcakes at the wedding and one to take home?
    • Do you want a mini cake at the very top of the cupcake wedding cake? Some people like this as an added design feature for the bride and groom to keep after the wedding.
  2. Plan the cupcake decoration. From a simple buttercream frosting to edible petals to inexpensive cupcake caps, you have lots of options. Do you want intricate designs on some of the cupcakes only, or on all? Do you want to mix and match designs? Think about the various possibilities. Some decorative designs to consider include:
    • These are imprints of a bride and groom using fondant Unique toppers that are just for the bride and groom.
    • A beloved symbol representing the bride and groom, such as doves, swans, or flowers.
    • Hearts and initials.
    • Gerberas Floral designs.
    • Real flowers atop the frosting. (Be sure to use non-toxic flowers.)
    • Garden wedding designs.
    • Butterflies.
    • A fondant bow.
    • A fun photo of the bride and groom attached with a toothpick.
  3. Choose a tiered stand or an equivalent arrangement. There are lots of stands currently available, or you can simply choose to arrange the cupcake display as works best for you.
    • If using a stand, decide whether you want to buy or rent. If the cost is reasonable, consider purchasing it as you can use the stand again and again for tea parties, etc. Stands come in ceramic, plastic, acrylic, metal, etc.
    • Consider a round tier.
    • Consider a square tier.
    • Consider an "in the round" - a combination of using both stands and a round covered table for a larger wedding party.
  4. Set your schedule. It is important to work out who will be responsible for preparing the cupcakes. Even if you are doing this yourself, only the cupcake itself can be frozen ahead; the decorations must be done very close to the wedding time -- is that something you are prepared to do at the last minute?
    • Consider whether it might be less stressful to have a family member(s) or friend(s) do it for you. You can sit down with the people responsible for preparing the cupcake wedding cake and talk them through the decorating, even show them what you want and provide photos of a test run. (Make a little photo instruction book that they can keep and follow.)
    • If you are going to do the baking, cupcakes freeze well (before decoration) and can be made a month out.
  5. Bake your cupcakes. Choose a cupcake recipe that you love and prepare it in advance of the wedding. Freeze if necessary. Some ideas for suitable wedding cupcakes include:
  6. Choose the frosting (icing) flavor and texture to decorate the cupcakes. Cupcake frosting can be made in almost any flavor imaginable: vanilla, chocolate, banana, etc. Match the flavor with the cupcake.
  7. Arrange transportation for the cupcakes and stand. More good news - cupcakes are much easier to transport than a wedding cake.
    • New, clean plastic sweater boxes/tubs are great for transporting, and they can usually hold about 40 cupcakes. These cost about US$5.
    • Decide whether or not you want the cupcakes wrapped in paper, as shown in this image. This can protect the cupcakes while still appearing pretty but it does change the appearance considerably.
  8. Assemble the cupcake wedding cake at the venue. Once the cupcakes arrive, have someone arrange them in the correct order if you are not doing this yourself.
    • Provide clear instructions. This is where your precise instructions are very important, down to the last ribbon and floral piece! Use a photo book taken when you rehearsed the design to help those doing the decorating to get it right.
    • Consider well in advance whether you want flowers, lace, ribbon, figurines, signs, photos, etc., to form part of the overall wedding cake set up.
    • Don't forget to include some silver slides or tongs to help people take the cupcakes without touching the stand or bumping their hands against other cupcakes.
  9. Provide the opportunity for guests to take their cupcake(s) home. If you have made enough cupcakes to allow guests to take one home, provide a carry container.
    • 3" x 3" x 3" (7.5 cm x 7.5 cm x 7.5 cm) gift boxes make your beautiful wedding cupcakes into a take home treat.
Video Tips
  • At US$1 to $3 each, cupcakes are a great alternative to wedding cake from US$4 and up per serving.
  • If you're creative, stands can be built by making circles or squares of Styrofoam, covered with aluminum foil and hot gluing around with ribbon. Use thick Styrofoam pillars to hold up the tier.
Things You'll Need
  • Cupcakes (see suggested recipes in steps)
  • Cupcake holders/papers
  • Frosting and edible coloring
  • Decorative elements (fondant, molded chocolates, flowers, etc.)
  • Stand, ribbon, decorations
  • Favor boxes (if relevant)
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8 Tips for Enjoying a Book You Already Know the Ending To

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
If you're avoiding reading a book because everyone's already talked about it, and the plot has been blogged to bits, you might want to think again. Reading a book where you already know the plot can still be a personally enjoyable experience if you can accept that the plot spoiler isn't the be all and end all of the book. This article will provide you with a number of ways to work around a spoiled plot so that you can still enjoy the actual read on your own terms. Steps
  1. Understand what a spoiler is and why it occurs. In terms of a book, a spoiler is something that reveals critical elements of the plot, and often includes the ending. It will usually be parts of a book that would otherwise be surprising for the reader.[1] Reasons for a spoiler might include:
    • Reviewing the book and critiquing it.
    • Excitement of a reader who wants to share his or her appreciation of or annoyance with the book with others.
    • Naïveté of a reader who doesn't believe it will spoil another person's reading of the book, or doesn't realize that you haven't yet read the book.
    • A spoilsport who wants to ruin someone else's experience of the book; perhaps someone showing off or just being mean-spirited.
  2. Start reading. Part of the problem may well be that you simply won't start the book because a voice in your head keeps insisting that it's not worth the effort. Stop listening to that voice, start reading, and let your reaction to the first chapter or so be the real test of whether or not you want to continue reading. Chances are, if the book is good, you will be compelled to keep reading even though you know the plot or a key element.
  3. Expect to enjoy the book. Since it's clearly already popular and well talked about, there will be a lot to enjoy throughout the book, and it's important to keep in mind that books can still be enjoyed even if you know how it ends or know the "big twist". You already know what happened, but you can still probably read to figure out why and how it happened. And no matter how much you have already heard, it won't ever be possible to truly grasp the manner in which the book is written and how it comes across in tone and narrative until you are personally reading it.
    • There will be plenty of parts of the book that you won't yet know. Spoilers are about the most popular, surprising parts of the book. They aren't the whole book and indeed, there may be parts that resonate a great deal more with you than the spoiled parts. But you won't know until you've read it for yourself!
    • Expect the funny parts to be original. Spoilers often don't convey the funnier parts of a book well because these are not the surprising twists in the book. And it's actually very hard to convey the precise humor out of a book in a review or by recounting – you kind of have to "be there" to "get it"!
  4. Be skeptical about the spoilers that you think you already know. Try not to overthink what you've already been told or your expected reading experience. You might have heard or read a lot of opinions about the plot but that doesn't mean they are either right or representative of what will be your own experience. In fact, you can have a lot of fun reading and thinking about other people's takes on the plot. You might find yourself scoffing, "Whoa! Joe was so wrong about that interpretation of what character X does in this scene! What a load of rot! What really happens is X, Y, and Z!". Consider these points:
    • It's possible the person retelling the story doesn't understand the narrative elements or misunderstands the psychological underpinnings and misconstrues what really is going on.
    • Narrative devices are not always clearly conveyed by spoilers. For example, you might know about the ending precisely because the author begins at the end and then unfolds the plot as to how the story reaches that ending (a reverse chronology). Or, it might be a case that the story begins in the middle (in media res) and the flashbacks leading up to that point are poorly conveyed by the spoiler. And the spoilers may not have revealed the delightful red herrings strewn throughout the book. There are many narrative devices that won't be fully appreciable until you delve into the book yourself, in spite of spoilers.
    • Savor surprises. There still might be something not major in the plot that surprises you, that hasn't been discussed or reviewed.
    • Focus on the subjective elements that are in the realm of the reader's interpretation, not that of the reviewer. For this, you would do well to look for such narrative devices as MacGuffins (a prime motivation for a reader that is never adequately explained to the reader), flashbacks and flash-forwards, prophecies, foreshadowings, etc. All of these elements are for your own exploration for a deeper understanding, to be interpreted through your own experience of life and feelings for the characters. You might be pleasantly surprised at how much you differ in opinion about the rationales and outcomes of the book that other people have presumed to be a certain way.
    • Don't anticipate the spoiled element coming up, or try to predict when it will happen; maybe the spoiler wasn't even true? Then you will be twice as surprised!
    • Relish the fact you know the ending but not the how, a common narrative device in plays such as those by Shakespeare, or movies that begin with the end. You know the ending but you're a lot less certain of how the characters and story get to that ending.
  5. Keep in mind that movie plots and book plots frequently diverge and vary in depth. If you have seen a movie version of a book before reading the book, there is even less reason to fret about a spoiled plot. Movies simply do not have the luxury of being able to go into the same level of depth as a book. So, while you may have the general gist from a movie, there are likely to be a lot of surprises and revelations for you when reading the book. Some of the things that might happen include:
    • A deeper understanding of what has motivated characters - perhaps you have wondered why a movie character has been so one-dimensional; the book read might prove otherwise.
    • A different ending from what you expected (movies often change endings for Hollywood preferences).
    • Additional characters, scenes, action, etc., that the movie didn't have room for. Of especial interest are those characters that get the chop in the movie but are of added interest in the book.
  6. Be someone who loves spoilers. There are people who thrive on spoilers as a way to inform them before they start reading, as a form of incentive![2] Knowing what the ending is and how the plot unfurls can sometimes be a way of avoiding unpleasant surprises, or be a form of motivating your reading. There are various websites devoted to spoilers, which provide a discussion point for people who like spoilers, which can be a reason of itself to enjoy spoilers as you get to argue the finer points or even veracity of spoilers with others online.
  7. Avoid times when you might be confronted by spoilers. There are some occasions when you're more likely to be exposed to spoilers than normal:
    • Book club meet ups – always expect at least one person to have already read the book and to be ready to spill the beans.[3]
    • Book reviews – whether or not a book review will reveal the plot will depend on the purpose for which it is being written. If it is for promoting the book's sales and readership, it is unlikely to give away the plot and ending; if, however, it is for the purpose of critiquing the book (often the case in blogs), it may well reveal the ending and major plot elements. You will need to judge according to the context of the review before reading further. Many reviewers will use the phrase "spoiler alert" if they are about to reveal major elements of the plot or ending. You have been warned!
    • Websites – reader reviews, forums, blog posts.
    • You see someone with a copy of the book and they're talking about just having finished it – let them know quickly that you don't want to know the ending!
  8. Don't go looking for spoilers online.[4] While there are many opportunities to find out what a book's contents are, if you have the slightest peek at spoiler sites or reviews, you only have yourself to blame!
  9. Remember that no "spoiler" can ruin a truly great book. Many avid readers will confess that they have read a number of books over and over, and enjoyed them more with each subsequent reading. Books are stories, and sometimes you need time to ruminate or meditate on the story, the way it was told, how it ties in to other stories.
    • Think "Titanic" - the movie was based on an event almost a century prior to when the movie was made. Everyone knew how it had to end, and yet it was one of the most popular movies of all time. No spoiler will ever make reading a great story pointless.
    • Another recent example: An episode of Doctor Who featured Vincent Van Gogh. Everyone knows who Van Gogh was, and most know that he took his own life at a young age. Yet the story was widely considered one of the best of this series ever, because it wasn't about Van Gogh's death. It was about his life, and it tied into a previous episode in which a regular character leaves the earthly plane; it was about seeing beauty and feeling inadequate despite having tremendous talent, and also about the importance in each of our lives of leaving a legacy and being remembered after we die. A great story is a great story, whether you know what happens in the end or not.
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How to Make Wood Floor Polish (Beeswax and Essential Oils)

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
These days, wood floor polishers are expensive and often they don't work that well! If you're tired of spending money on every brand of wood floor polish, try making a tried-and-true one of your own. Here is a step-by-step guide to making an effective homemade wood floor polish. Ingredients
  • 1/4 cup of grated beeswax
  • A ceramic bowl or measuring cup
  • 1/4 a cup of turpentine
  • A screw-top jar
  • (Optional) A few drops or either lavender, orange, lemon, or pine oil extract or essential oil
Steps
  1. Add the beeswax to the bowl. Using a double boiler bowl is fine if you have one.
  2. Put the bowl in a pan of boiling water. Melt the beeswax. When the beeswax is melted, remove it from the water.
  3. Once off the heat, stir until the beeswax starts to cool. Add the turpentine and stir through until it is well mixed in. If using, add the extract or essential oil drops when the polish is soft and cool.
  4. Transfer the mix to a suitable storage container with a lid. Label and date. It will last 4-5 months in cool area.[1]
  5. Use the wood floor polish as follows:
    • Clear a floorspace and be sure it won't need to be walked across for a number of hours.
    • Using a sponge, spread the polish over the wooden floor.
    • Leave sitting on the floor for 12-24 hours.
    • Polish by hand or with a floor polisher.
    • Buff as usual.
Warnings
  • Keep kids and animals away from the hot beeswax at all times.
  • Please remember that once you apply this to your floor, it will require buffing, and inhibits applying a urethane type finish to the floor later, without a full sanding job.
  • If you already have a urethane type finish, you don't need the polish. Use the flooring manufacturer's recommended cleaner.
Things You'll Need
  • Ceramic bowl or heatproof measuring cup
  • Saucepan or double boiler
  • Screw-top jar
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  • Cross checked against Casey Keilar, The Complete Book of Natural Housekeeping, p. 29, (2000), ISBN 1-57990-229-4
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How to Tactfully Ask Emotional Questions

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How do you know if someone likes you, wants to date more often, wants to be exclusive, feels the same way you do? Ask the person... with tact. Steps
  1. Decide exactly what you want to talk about and why. Think about what you want to see happen in the future, and try not to dwell on every shortcoming from the past.
    • Concentrate on the current situation, not past ones.
    • Try not to get too wordy--explain what you're feeling and why.
    • Finally, say what you would like to see happen. After that, answer any questions they have.
    • It may help to write out what you need to say before talking to this person. If you are convinced that the words won't come out right, put your written words into a letter--edited more than once for a balanced delivery--and personally give it to him or her. Effectiveness goes way up when you stay while your friend reads it, so that you can stay to answer questions. Always an excellent standard: good news by letter, bad news in person.
  2. Pick a time and place that is both relaxing and intimate-- preferably in private. If you are afraid of a harsh or intimidating reaction to your emotional question, meeting in public may help, such as a cafe where you can both sit and talk without interruption, as opposed to a sports bar. '
    • Turn off any cell phones or pagers that might disrupt the flow of the conversation.
  3. Ask your question and be honest. It is still important to keep the other person's feelings in mind when you are honest but don't make up stories just to ease the asking.
    • Ask a genuine question that is based on facts as you perceive them.
    • Ask an open-ended question–that is, one that the other person can respond to without the conversation being shut down.
    • Ask with respect and kindness.
  4. Take care not to scare the person away or be too emotional. Avoid acting as if your life is hanging on the answer they give you. (If it is, are you a safe person for him or her to be close to?!) This is especially true if it is a new relationship. It is unattractive and makes you seem desperate or unstable. (Even if you are, you don't want to show it!) If you are melodramatic, you risk making things more complicated and less obvious. Equally, don't be cheesy or fake in an effort to act contrary to how you feel. Just be honest.
    • For example, if you are asking someone that you have been casually seeing if they are interested in moving the relationship along, be upfront, but avoid being melodramatic.
  5. Keep it casual. Don't put too much pressure on the other person. You want the person to be honest, and even if what they say isn't what you want to hear, it is better to know how they really feel so that you can adjust your plans accordingly and move forward with wisdom.
    • For example, if you're asking someone if they want to be more serious and they don't want this, even though it is disappointing, it is good to know that so that you don't set yourself up to get hurt by falling for him or her too much.
  6. Be confident and direct. Don't beat around the bush. The ability to take on a sensitive issue delicately but directly is an attractive trait that reveals your maturity.
    • If you need time to cool down or to keep from getting too emotional, excuse yourself to the restroom, take a few minutes and a few deep breaths.
  7. Listen to the other person completely when they answer you. Make a genuine effort to understand their answers. This will show the person that you care about what they think.
    • Don't preach or try to change the other person's answer. You must assume that they are speaking honestly and in good faith.
    • Allow the other person to share what is in their heart–listen for it.
    • Be very patient. Some people may want to tell you, but they will need to battle their own ego and concerns to speak of it.
    • Don't try cut in and talk until you are sure that the other person has finished talking.
  8. Be prepared to compromise. If the other person doesn't want to do what you're asking for, try to find the middle path. If they don't want to do something, ask yourself what other ways you will be happy to reassess the solution:
    • For example, the other person doesn't want to take dance lessons 5 days a week. Maybe you could try once or twice a week? What arrangement or changes might put the two of you on the road to freedom for 5 dance lessons a week? What would that take from you, and for how long?
Tips
  • Stay calm at all times.
  • If you don't get the answer you wanted, it's not the end of the world, and if you are calm and honest, you may find yourself having a good conversation in which you learn something valuable, even if it doesn't go your way.
  • Look the other person in the eye. Eye contact is important to give the other person a sense of your sincerity and connection.
Warnings
  • Having an important conversation when you (or the other person) are any of the following is dangerous and most likely won't go well:
    • If you are not prepared, cognitively or emotionally
    • If you are tired, hungry or irritable
    • If you are stressed out
    • If you are noticeably uncomfortable in any way, such as especially warm or cold
    • If you are intoxicated
  • If you are offering criticism, don't attack the person's character; it will put the person in a defensive position and you won't get anywhere. Rather, concentrate on their actions and what you would prefer to see, i.e., "Could we hold hands in public?" as opposed to "You never hold my hand. You're such a closed person."
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How to Submit a Leak to Wikileaks

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Wikileaks.org is a site aimed at uncovering government, corporate, and other relevant information that the public has a right to know about but has been kept under wraps. A multi-jurisdictional public service aimed at protecting whistleblowers, journalists, and activists who have sensitive materials to make public, Wikileaks publishes and defends such information worldwide.

Wikileaks seeks to set the record right, by ensuring the integrity of our common historical record and the rights of all peoples to create new history. The site protects every person who submits confidential information and uses Swedish and Belgian laws to protect confidentiality. So far Wikileaks has over 100,000 documents and every source has been protected, no documents have been censored, and all legal attacks against Wikileaks have been defeated.

If you have information to leak to Wikileaks, here is how to do so.

Steps
  1. Assess the leak-worthiness of your information before going any further. Wikileaks will only accept information that is:
    • Classified, censored, or otherwise restricted material of political, diplomatic, historical or ethical significance.
    • WikiLeaks does not accept rumour, opinion, or other kinds of first hand reporting or material that is already publicly available.
    • Areas of documents leaked thus far have covered government, trade, corporate, war, killings, torture, detention, suppression of free speech and free press, diplomacy, spying, counter-intelligence, ecology, climate, nature, sciences, corruption, finances, taxes, trading, censorship and internet filtering, cults, religious organizations, abuse, violence, violations.
  2. Get advice. If you're not sure as to the accuracy of your information or how to proceed with it, Wikileaks has an anonymous and secure chat at https://chat.wikileaks.org/ that you can join to discuss things, have your questions answered, and problems concerning the potential information responded to.
    • This chat has anti-logging features in place to prevent any accidental disclosure of your name, IP, or identity. All communications are secured with SSL encryption.
    • Alternatively, you can contact Wikileaks via http://wikileaks.org/wiki/Contact_us, following the prompts.
  3. Prepare your documents in advance. Wikileaks advises that you try to convert Microsoft Word documents into PDFs, so as to avoid leaving your name trail on the document. If you cannot do this, the Wikileaks staff will do it for you (but you might wish to request this be done as a reminder).
  4. You'll see this on the front page first Go to Wikileaks. It is found at http://wikileaks.org/.
  5. Click on the link "Submit Documents". This button is found at the center, top box of the page (see image).

  6. Choose your method of submission. There is a range of methods, each aimed at providing you with a way that is safest for you in your particular circumstances and context. You can choose to use either an online or postal submission method. Note that Wikileaks claims that postal submission has the highest security levels, provided you follow the steps outlined below.

The online submission process
  1. Submit your leak information online. A secure submission can be made online. The upload of a file is undertaken via a bank grade encrypted submission. No logs are kept and the information is protected under Swedish and Belgian press secrecy laws. Choose either the direct submission method, or the TOR network, as follows.
  2. Make a direct submission. Click on the activated line that reads "Click here to securely submit a file online." Check that it has a padlock at the end of it. This link will take you to another page.
    • Choose the file for uploading using the "browse" button. Double check that you have chosen the right document. Press "Upload" to submit.

  3. Make a submission via the secure TOR network. This is secure and anonymous. As a distributed network, Wikileaks states that this network provides maximum security for an online submission.
  4. Go to the chat room if unsure of anything (see above).
The postal submission process
  1. Post the submission. If you cannot use the online process, or you need the greatest anonymity possible, or you find it is simply unwieldy and difficult given the type or bulk of documentation that you have, Wikileaks enables you to post the documents and related information.
  2. Assemble your information. The information can be provided in any format that you're able to access and use effectively.
    • You can send CDs, DVDs, USB flash drives (memory sticks), microfiche, handwritten evidence, photos, etc.
    • Make two copies of anything transferred on a floppy disk, as floppies can be unreliable.[1]
    • Wikileaks will scan paper documents if they are of significant political or media interest – you can contact Wikileaks at http://wikileaks.org/wiki/Contact_us first if you're unsure of the significance of your documents.
  3. Address the envelope. If writing "Wikileaks" on the address label is going to cause suspicion and problems, then don't. Instead, use any name or acronym (e.g., "WL") you'd like, provided that you use the correct postal address. Contact Wikileaks direct at http://wikileaks.org/wiki/Contact_us for relevant unlisted postal addresses.
  4. Place the information in the post.
    • You can post to any country in the Wikileaks network. Post to whichever country you feel is most suitable. Go by the nature of the material and your postal service's reliability/ability.
    • Where your country has an unreliable postal system, make multiple copies and use DHL, FedEX, or another postal courier service.
    • Another method is to send the materials to multiple addresses, to make sure the materials reach at least one of them.
    • Provision of a return address is up to you. If you do use one, make it clear so that the envelope can be returned to you.
  5. Expect the Wikileaks truth facilitators to upload your posted material to the Wikileaks website, using their fast internet connection. Wikileaks will destroy the mailed package.
High Risk Postal Submissions

Wikileaks advises taking additional care where posting comes with high risk. Follow these steps to keep yourself as safe as possible.

  1. Post away from your usual, local post office. If you need to travel some distance, consider doing so where feasible.
  2. A typical CCTV tower Check that there are no video cameras monitoring or people who might be watching at the post office you are going to.
  3. If you are being watched (surveillance), give the postal item to someone else whom you can trust and you know will not be followed or intercepted, such as a relative or friend. Ask them to post it from a safe place.
    • Sometimes mail is seized covertly when a person is under surveillance. Wikileaks advises that where this is a possibility, that you handle the documents with great care if you have concerns about possible interception and tracing back to you. Wear gloves to prevent leaving fingerprints. Dust off all hairs and other biological matter. Do not seal the envelope with your saliva.


Tips
  • Submitting confidential material to WikiLeaks is safe, easy and protected by law if you live in a country that recognizes these laws. Citizens of China, Cuba, North Korea, Iran, and Venezuela should take caution in leaking documents.
  • Postage to Australia:

"WL" (or any name likely to evade postal censorship in your country)
BOX 4080
University of Melbourne
Victoria 3052
Australia

  • Wikileaks will never cooperate with anyone seeking to identify you.
Warnings
  • Some documents, especially pertaining to government and military are classified for a reason. Unlawful transfer of these documents can result in serious charges such as espionage, punishable by death in times of war.[2] Even if you are successful at getting something on that site, you may get caught.[3]
  • CD and DVD writers usually include the serial number of the DVD or CD writer onto the CD/DVDs they write. Theoretically, if intercepted, the entire supply chain could be tracked down to trace the purchase of the CD/DVD writer to you. If you think there are financial records traceable to you, and your adversary has the will/capacity to be this thorough, avoid this method if interception is a high likelihood. Such interception and tracing is very expensive, so keep that in mind when weighing your chances.
  • CD and DVD media also include a non-unique manufacturing "batch number" for each group of around 10,000 CD/DVDs made. Anti-piracy activities have used this approach to track down counterfeit offenders.
Things You'll Need
  • Online methods: Computer with Internet access
  • Postal mail:
    • Hardcopy document(s) or magnetic or optical media
    • Appropriate packaging with sufficient postage
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How to Process Food Without a Food Processor

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Old Kitchens often have no power points...Food processors are great modern conveniences. Yet, for the times you need to cook a recipe and there's no electricity, you're in a kitchen without a processor, or your own device has just broken down, you need to be able to cook effectively without one.

While many of the solutions provided in this article are straightforward, some require knowing how to use ordinary tools in different ways. All of these methods combined should be able to replicate a food processor, and while these are slower, more labour-intensive methods, they are an excellent experience for learning to cook from scratch. They also use no electricity--good for nostalgia or slow-cooking type meals.

Steps
  1. Shred using a grater. For shredded foods, most foods can be grated using a manual grater.
    • You can also use the grater for making fresh breadcrumbs.
    • Try to obtain a commercial grade food grater, as these are less likely to rust.
  2. Grate or slice using a mandolin. Take care using mandolins; always use the slicing handle they come with.
  3. Grate by slicing into fine slices. Then slice again to make julienne like cuts on a smaller scale.
  4. Some can slice and grate in oneFor very fine slices or shavings, use a vegetable peeler.
  5. ZesterUse a zesters for making small thin strips for garnish, or for small quantity needs.
  6. Use the following as suitable crushing methods:
    • Crush fresh ingredients (for example, to make a pesto or paste), place the food into a sealed bag and crush with a rolling pin or meat mallet.
    • For crushing items such as biscuits or dry, stale bread for crumbs, use the same method, then sieve the crumbs through a colander or sieve to filter the fine crumbs, then crush the remaining coarse ones again.
    • An electric coffee mill can also be used to pulverize dry ingredients, such as herbs or grains. It should be cleaned thoroughly of coffee first, and and also after.
  7. For harder items like nuts, spices or garlic, crush them in a mortar and pestle.
  8. A mouli is great for larger quanitiesFor pureed foods, use a mouli. Alternatively, press the foods through a clean fine mesh or sieve to make food like pâté.
  9. Find a dough hook alternative. For making a dough such as pasta, pastry or bread, use a stiff whisk, table knife or fork. These can be used to combine ingredients to keep your hands clean. You will still need to knead by hand, however, for quickest results.
  10. For pulsing soups or other similar products, use the following solutions:
    • To make between a smooth/chunky consistency, use a potato masher.
    • For a very smooth soup, mash until no visible chunks remain, then pour through a sieve, and press the remainder through the sieve using a spoon.
  11. a double mezzalunaFor quick chopping where an even consistency is not always needed, use a mezzaluna type knife. This will enable quick chopping. A standard knife and board will suffice for most vegetables and fruits.
  12. For whipping, use a whisk. This is the easiest, but you could also use a bunch of thin bamboo kebab sticks to simulate a whisk.
    • For churning, such as butter or ice cream, use a rotary whisk if you have one.
  13. For grinding or mincing, use a mechanical mincer if there is one. This will give a unique mincemeat like consistency which is very hard to replicate by hand.
    • If such an item is still not available, then slice thinly, finely chop and crush with a pestle, potato masher, or knead it by hand until you reach a mince consistency.
    • Semi frozen meat can be grated to make a good mince like product. Take all suitable hygiene precautions.
Video Tips
  • Experiment using different tools to make similar results.
  • A strong wooden spoon can be useful for kneading bread dough.
Warnings
  • The downside is that these methods can be slower, so maintaining top hygiene is important, to avoid food poisoning.
Things You'll Need
  • Grater
  • Mouli
  • Mortar and pestle
  • Plastic bag and rolling pin/meat mallet
  • Potato masher
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How to Teach Your Dog to Surf

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Dog's Nite Out surf team Captain, "Surf Dog Zoey", hangin' 10Surfing with your canine pal can be great fun and rewarding for both of you in terms of exercise and having fun together. If you're keen to get your dog surfing with you, this article will help you to get Fido used to the waves and surfing like a pro in no time! Steps
  1. Make sure you have a dog surfboard. Your dog's paws can be harmed if he is not using the right board, wax or track top. Foam boards might be a little easier on your dog's paws than a hard surface, and it's easier for him to walk on because there is more traction for his paws. On the other hand, the dog will scratch into the foam, and the foam might dig into the dog's paws, possibly giving it a rash.
    • Get your dog some gear too. Suitable items include a dog life vest, dog wetsuits, dog beach towels, water and salt waterproof bungee leashes, pet tent (for a rest in while you keep surfing), and EZ chairs for the beach (more for you!).
  2. Start small. Begin somewhere easy, like a swimming pool or a lake on a really flat wave day. Throw your dog's favorite fetch toy into the water and see if he retrieves it. If he does, he is probably a water-loving dog. Having other dogs that like the water will also encourage your dog into the water.
    • Make sure you know how to surf. It won't make much sense to your dog if you're not sharing the experience and know what to do too!
    • This sport involves a lot of exertion in the water, and the waves can be rough, so be sure that you and your dog are both strong swimmers before attempting to surf.
  3. Demonstrate by example and get your dog excited about being in the water with you. Let your dog watch you on a boogie board or surfboard to get him fired up to join you. Talk to him, call to him, and encourage him to come into the water and play nearby while watching what you're doing.
    • Play with your dog in the water.
    • Let your dog play on the board.
    • Develop your dog's trust (the number one element for success); don't start off too fast and make sure that it is fun for your dog.
  4. Get your dog used to the board on the sand or on another suitable surface before going into the water. Test your dog's balance to see where he likes to place himself on the board. Some smaller dogs like the nose of the board, some heavier dogs have a better center of gravity and like the middle to the back of the board. Depending on size, however, your dog should be roughly about two-thirds of the way back, with his tail over the board's fin.
    • If your dog is too far forward, the board will nosedive under the wave.
    • If your dog is too far back, the nose will come out of the water and the board won't catch the wave.
  5. PFD - Pet Flotation DevicePop on your dog's pet (personal) flotation device (PFD). The dog PFD will provide your dog with greater flotation when he wipes out in the surf. Many dog life vests have a handle on top that lets you gently pull your canine pal back on the board or out of the water when needed.
  6. Paddle out. On a longboard, get on the board with the dog and paddle into the waves. You should be behind the dog for best results when paddling through the breakers. On a shortboard or boogie board, put the dog on the board and push him out through the breakers.
  7. Catch the wave. Start with small waves, roughly 1-2 feet (30cm - 60cm). Even champion surfing dogs don't tackle surf much bigger than 3-4 feet (90cm - 120cm).
    • Push off and shred. Catching the wave is a knack that requires timing, finesse, patience and lots of repetition.
    • Get your dog started in the wave each time and then let him surf the wave on his own. Try to get the dog started right when the waves starts to curl.
    • Now your dog and you are surfing! Bow Wow Bunga, dude!
Video Tips
  • Get your dog on the surfboard at the tide and walk him out towards the waves. Position him facing the beach and give him a small push towards the angle of the wave that's not breaking.
  • Try the pet, rafting, or boating sections to find a dog PFD.
Warnings
  • Only take your dog to a beach that allows dogs. Check the local ordinances first.
  • Surfboards have been known to cause a bruise or two when they're bobbing around in the waves, so be careful.
  • Surfing just isn't for some dogs. If your dog doesn't show interest in surfing no matter what you do, don't force them. It's better for surfing to be an indifferent experience than a traumatizing one!
Things You'll Need
  • Dog
  • Surfboard suitable for dog
  • Additional dog accessories as needed
  • Beach gear (towel, umbrella, sunscreen, etc.)
  • Leash in case you need to restrain Fido for any reason
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Want an alternative to scrunching your hair? Try plopping!

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago



If you're looking for a way to decrease the drying time of your hair and help enhance waves and curls, plopping's for you! Plopping involves putting your hair up in a cloth, which behaves like an accordion, almost scrunching the hair by itself. This is a different method than just putting your hair up in a towel turban. You can encourage your natural waves or curls with less time and effort than traditional curling methods. Steps
  1. Gather the needed materials listed in the Things You'll Need section below.
  2. Wash and style your curly hair. Add any mousses or gels to the hair before plopping.
  3. The toilet seat was used in this picture.Lay your plopping cloth on a flat surface. Good places include the toilet seat (with the lid down!), chairs, and low beds or shelves.
  4. Bend over at the waist and position your hair on top of the cloth, near the edge closest to you. Move your head until it is pressed firmly against the surface.
  5. Take the far edge of the cloth and drape it over the back of your head.
  6. Grab the sections of the towel on either side of your head and twist them tightly away from your face in two "sausage rolls." They don't have hair in them, because your hair is plopped on top of your head, remember? The sausage rolls are just a convenient way to secure the towel.
  7. Move up slowly from the bent over position.
  8. Hair ties are generally easiest to use.Twist the sausage rolls to the back of your head, near your neck, and tie them together, or pin them with clips.
  9. A finished plopLeave the plop on for as long as you like. If you notice frizzing after you remove the plop, add a little gel to your hair then and try plopping for less time. 15 to 20 minutes is a good amount of time to try.
  10. A blow-dryer and finger diffuserRemove the plop. Let your hair air dry, or blow-dry with a diffuser so as not to disturb the curls. Do not touch the curls while they are wet or they will frizz.
  11. The finished hair after ploppingRock those curls!
Video Tips
  • There are many variations on plopping, so experiment and see what works best for you.
  • Some people like to sleep in their plops. Make sure to clip the cloth where your head does not lie on the pillow, if you choose this option.
Warnings
  • Do not use a generic, terrycloth towel to plop with if your hair is prone to frizz! The little threads of the material will pull out strands of hair and create frizz! (Cotton or linen is the preferred material.)
  • If you have short curly hair, this may squash some sections weirdly.
Things You'll Need
  • A plopping cloth, options include:
    • Cotton t-shirt (long-sleeved, and over-sized works best)
    • Linen, cotton, or microfiber cloth
  • Something to secure the plop with: hair tie, clip, etc.
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How to Make and Use a Keyhole Gaff

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Sometimes when you are fishing from a high place and a net or gaff cannot reach the fish, use this device. It is used to land big fish by snagging the swivel. Easy to make and carry, the device also protects your rod from breaking, especially as a novice. It's commonplace for beginner fishermen to abuse their rods when landing a big fish by swinging the rod vertically and pointing 180 degrees away from the fish, which is very bad. Here is how to make and use the keyhold gaff device. Steps
  1. For bigger fish, use thicker plywood.Assemble the items needed to make this gaff. These are listed below in the "Things You'll Need".
    • If you are 30 feet from the water (rather than 15 feet), your cord must be longer and the plywood must be heavier in relation to the cord, to easily slide this device down the main fishing line and over the swivel.
  2. With the jigsaw, cut the keyhole and the slot on the side. The slot on the side is where you will place the gaff over your main fishing line. The thin slot, in the keyhole, is where you will snag the swivel, so this slot must be thinner than the swivel.
    • With the drill, make a hole that is big enough to pass the cord through.
  3. Use this device for landing fish that weigh more than the breaking strength of your fishing line. For example, if the fish weighs 10 pounds and your main fishing line is 8 pounds test, your main line is going to break.
    • For bigger lines, even if your main line's breaking strength is bigger than the fish's weight, it is easier to use a cord to pull the fish up. For example, if your mainline is 18 pounds test and the fish is 10 pounds, your hands are going to hurt grasping such a small diameter line.
  4. Snag the swivel after this device slides over the swivelTo use this device, reel the fish until it is below you and slip the device over the main line. Let the device slide down until it is past the swivel. Snag the swivel, by lifting the device somewhat sharply so that the leader slides into the keyhole slot. The hook and leader must be strong.
  5. After snagging the swivel, set your rod down and pull the fish up with the cord. The short leader line, which is between the swivel and the hook, should be stronger than the main line.
  6. Do not use a snap swivel because it might come apart from the stress. For ease of attaching or removing of the leader to the swivel, use a big loop and cow hitch it. Another option would be to keep using a snap swivel but to have a split ring between the snap and the leader.
Tips
  • The length and thickness of the cord, and the board thickness and dimensions should be modified to your fishing situation.
  • Moving fast and keeping a tight line are important keys to landing a fish because you usually do not know how good the hook-up is until after you land the fish. Do not slacken the line or the fish might "throw" the hook or lure. If you decide to use the gaff, move quickly (but not roughly) and haul the fish up.
Things You'll Need
  • Jigsaw
  • Drill
  • Plywood 1/2"
  • Cord (if your main line is eight pound test, use some cord that is about 150 pound test)
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How to Care for a Hedgehog with Wobbly Hedgehog Syndrome

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
This article is dedicated to a hedgehog named Ivy, who has WHS.

WHS is Wobbly Hedgehog Syndrome, a progressive, degenerative neurological disease that affects African pygmy hedgehogs and European hedgehogs.[1] It is probably inherited, and unfortunately, it is a fatal disease. If your beloved "hedgie" winds up with WHS, here's how you can provide excellent care to try and ensure a longer, more comfortable life.

Steps
  1. Diagnose WHS. It's not always easy to determine if your hedgehog has Wobbly Hedgehog Syndrome. While many sources state that your pet will start to fall over or list to one side, evidence of the disease may be as subtle as dragging a foot or abruptly stopping running in the wheel. If your hedgehog starts to act differently than usual, a visit to the vet is probably the right thing to do; indeed, a sick hedgehog must always be taken to a vet because he will always need specialist diagnosis and care.[2]
    • When transporting a sick hedgehog to the vet, place him in a warm spot in a sleeping box with a lid. Try to get a friend to hold the box in the car to minimize bumps and vibrations to prevent car sickness.[3]
  2. Recognize the symptoms. This disease is predominant in domesticated hedgehogs and is similar to multiple sclerosis (MS) in humans.[4] This disease is believed to be genetic and there is no predeterminer to distinguish an affected hedgehog until the disease appears. It affects both males and females without bias.[5] The symptoms can include:
    • A rapid or a gradual onset affecting the hind legs, then moving up the body to the head. If rapid, it is debilitating very quickly, and can happen within a few days.
    • The muscles get weak and then atrophy.
    • Next, the spine curves and the body flattens out.
    • Weight loss is common.[6]
    • Onset can occur anywhere from 1 month to 36 months of age, with the average onset at 18 months.[7]
  3. Consider your willingness to care for your WHS afflicted hedgehog. As the disease progresses, your pet hedgehog will require specialized care. With this care, your pet can live for many months while in the grips of this physical decline. If you are unwilling to provide such care or feel your hedgehog is suffering, discuss euthanasia with your vet. Keep in mind, however, that many affected animals can survive for up to 24 months post-diagnosis, given the appropriate care.[8]
  4. Care for your pet's physical needs. It is critical that you position your hedgehog as naturally as possible to enable the circulatory system to work properly. As with any living creature, you will want to make things as comfortable and natural as possible. Here are some suggestions:
    • Try to find something to place on both sides of your hedgehog As the animal loses use of his limbs, you can use towels or soft cloths/fabric to keep your "hedgie" upright. One method is to roll up two towels and place on either side of your hedgehog to keep him upright, cradled in the "hollow" created in the middle.
    • Consider creating a maze with upright walls that your hedgehog can use to walk around to get to bed without falling over. Use whatever materials you have to hand, such as cardboard, plastic, etc.
    • Some carers advocate for physical therapy to keep the muscles toned and strong. If you do this, you must take care to not injure your pet while you try to help it. Make sure you do not move limbs in directions that they can no longer move. Provided that you take care, daily massaging your hedgehog can be a good way to help keep deteriorating muscles toned. Some suggestions include:
      • To aid digestion, rub your fingers clockwise on the hedgehog's belly as he lays back on your lap (never do this counter-clockwise).[9]
      • For the legs, massage each one and move each leg gently in a walking motion.[10]
      • Turn over and massage from head to tail.[11]
  5. Fix your hedgehog's surrounding environment. Once your pet is unable to stand on its legs, food and water need to be put lower where these can be reached with ease. When the hedgehog can no longer navigate effectively, water bowls must be removed completely, to avoid drowning. At that point, you will need to use a medicine dropper (pipette) or syringe to give water to your pet. Avoiding dehydration is very important, so you mustn't forget to rehydrate regularly.
    • As the body loses the ability to move around, temperature control must be supplemented using covers directly placed over your hedgehog (use soft fabric to make small "sheets"). Perhaps also use external heaters but if you need to use a heater, ensure that you do not make the environment too hot. Having the environment too hot or too cold is equally bad for an ailing hedgehog.
    • Avoid the growth of bed sores by repositioning the animal often. If a sore develops, treat it with antibiotic ointment and keep the area dry and clean. Seek your vet's advice if you're not sure what to do or use.
    • Change the bedding often to ensure your hedgehog is dry and clean. Hand towels are the perfect size when folded over into quarters to make a soft and pliable cushion. Paper towels folded into quarters make an absorbent and easily changeable padding to go on top of the hand towel. It's also handy to keep soft layered clothes nearby to wrap around your pet – this makes him easier to handle and reduces the chance of dropping him or causing discomfort to his sore and weak joints.
  6. Adapt how you feed your WHS hedgehog. Nothing in what you feed your pet needs to change after he contracts this disease, however, you should ensure that the food given is of high quality if it isn't already. How you feed your hedgehog will need to be modified:
    • Dry food may eventually need to be broken into smaller bite-sized bits.
    • Egg, fish, chicken, etc. will also need to be provided in small pieces to keep your hedgehog from choking.
    • As already mentioned, water needs to be administered using a medicine dropper (pipette) or a syringe, and it needs to be provided often to keep your pet from suffering from dehydration.
    • Eventually your pet may become unable to eat on his own. At that point, a tube or a straw can be used to supply nourishment via forced feeding.
Video Tips
  • Dealing with the emotional stress: Don't be misled – caring for a hedgehog with WHS is difficult and time consuming. And, it's sad to watch your pet degenerate before your eyes. Yet, providing what amounts to hospice care for another being has rewards of another kind – you extend the time you have left and you will form a connection with your hedgehog. Dependent creatures form bonds that may not exist before illness occurs. Hold your hedgehog often and talk to it! Your pet's head is unaffected by the disease and he/she will need reassurance from your attention and comforting voice.
  • Caring for an ailing hedgehog can be a good experience for both you and for your pet.
  • WHS affects around 10% of African pygmy hedgehogs in North America.[12]
Warnings
  • WHS cannot be transferred to human beings, but it is always wise to wash your hands before and after handling your hedgehog. Even healthy hedgehogs can carry salmonella.
Things You'll Need
  • Clean bed and bedding
  • Maze materials
  • Towels or soft cloths
  • Medicine dropper/pipette/syringe
  • Quality food
  • Heater or cooler as needed
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6 Tips for Working With Your Ex

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Working with your ex is a situation few enjoy contemplating, let alone having to face. Nevertheless, with the following excellent advice, you and your ex will soon be civil workmates without that underlying tension.





Steps
  1. Take steps to get over the break up. If the relationship ended recently, you might still be processing the emotions. Since you can't isolate yourself from your ex, it's especially important that you follow advice aimed at helping you to get over a break up, rather than repressing your anger and regrets. Nevertheless, be aware that you might still get emotional or choked up at work. Practice good emotional hygiene; the tips in How to Gain Control of Your Emotions and How to Hold Back Tears may help.
  2. Be professional. Whatever is going on in your love life, from 9-5 your mind must be on your job. Don't dwell on the reasons for your break up, it's over - move on. From this moment on, see your ex as a colleague only, just like everyone else in your workplace. Focus on enjoying your job. If your ex is being immature, treat your ex like you would treat any troublesome co-worker; read about dealing with annoying colleagues for extra ideas.
  3. Talk it out. Discreetly take your ex to one side away from prying eyes. State that what's past is past, and that while it will be difficult, you are looking forward to being workmates. Mention that this workmate cordiality is important for both your jobs and your happiness. If your ex doesn't share your mature attitude, don't stoop to his or her level, and don't give each other the cold shoulder. The more normal you act, the more likely your ex is going to follow suit.
  4. Avoid sensitive topics. Wounds may still be raw, so don't rub them. It's wise not to flirt with the new temp in your ex's presence, or to start reminiscing about what a great time you had in Ibiza or the Bahamas together last year. And never, ever bring up the break-up as a topic of conversation.
  5. Don't spread the details with other colleagues. Misery attracts company. Mentioning you are having issues with your ex will see the whole sorry episode picked over again and again by your gossip hungry colleagues because they'll sense you've made it "fair game" for discussion. They may even begin to take sides, creating something that isn't there. Less scurrilous workmates might feel excluded or embarrassed by your situation and could try to keep away from you. It's much better to keep your affairs to yourself, in order to prevent your life being turned into the office soap opera.
  6. Give the workmate relationship time. Don't expect to immediately have the same working rapport with your ex as you have with your other colleagues. It will take time but eventually you may develop an even better relationship. Now get back to work!
Tips
  • You may need to discuss the break-up very generally with your supervisor if asked. If this happens, be very discreet and circumspect and only give enough information to reassure your supervisor that the two of you will behave maturely in the office and place work before anything else.
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How to Create a Project in iMovie 08

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
iMovie is an application on Macs that is used to create videos. An iMovie Project can be as simple or as complex as the amount of time and effort you wish to put into making it. To get you started if you're a novice, this article walks you through the basics for creating a project in iMovie 08. Steps
  1. Select "File". On the drop-down menu, click on "New Project".
  2. Type in a name for your project.
  3. Choose the aspect ratio that you want to use for your project. Base the aspect ratio you choose on the dimensions of the video and photos that you will be using in your iMovie project.
    • Standard (4:3) Produces a movie for viewing on the iPhone.
    • iPhone (3:2) Same as Standard.
    • Widescreen (16:9) Produces a movie ideal for viewing on a widescreen monitor or high definition TV.
  4. Add photos or videos to iMovie.
    • To add clips to your project, click a video clip to select a frame range that you want for your project.
    • To add movies, just drag the clip you want into the project.
    • To add photos choose "Window", then "Photos", and just click the "Photos" button in the iMovie toolbar.
    • This is the symbol on the iMovie toolbar.
    • Four seconds of video are automatically selected.
  5. Click the "Add to Project" button. This is located in the middle of the iMovie toolbar. Doing this will add a video to the end of your project.
    • You can drag your photos and videos to rearrange them in any order you want.
    • If you want to preview your movie, click the "Play Project" button below the project library or just press the Backslash (\) key.
  6. Add background music to enliven your movie. Just choose "Window", then "Music and Sound Effects", or click the "Music" button in the iMovie toolbar. Just drag the music file into the project.
  7. Add a transition between to clips if you want to make your movie look better. Click "Window", then "Transitions", and choose the transition you want.
  8. Add a title to your project if you want to show your movie title and/or end credits. Choose "Window", then "Titles", or click the "Titles" button in the iMovie toolbar.
Video Tips
  • Make sure that the movie's aspect ratio fits the screen you plan on using.
Things You'll Need
  • iMovie 08
  • Video/photos
  • Background music
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How to Get a Free iPhone 4 Case from Apple

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
On July 23, 2010 Apple began allowing iPhone 4 owners to receive a free case or bumper in the hopes of fixing the notorious antenna reception problems caused by holding in a way that attenuates the antenna. Here is how you can get your free case or bumper from your iPhone, from your computer, or as a refund.


Steps From Your iPhone
  1. Search for "iPhone 4 Case Program" at the App StoreGo to the App Store on your iPhone and search for "iPhone 4 case program". Select the app that appears on top of the list.
  2. Click "Free" to begin downloading Click the blue button marked "Free" to begin downloading the app.
  3. Pick the casePress "Get Started" and then select the case or bumper you want. You can view details of the cases available by clicking each case.
  4. Now wait 3-5 weeks.Follow the prompts to confirm your address information. Wait at least 3-5 weeks for your free case to arrive by mail.
From Your Computer
  1. Navigate directly to the App Store via this link.
  2. Download the app as you would any other iPhone app.
  3. Sync with iTunes via the USB cable.
  4. Open the app on your iPhone and follow the "On Your iPhone" instructions above.
Refund
  1. Make sure you qualify. According to the terms and conditions, you must meet the following conditions to get a refund:
    • The iPhone 4 bumper must have one of the following part numbers qualify: MC597ZM, MC669ZM, MC668ZM, MC670ZM, MC671ZM, MC672ZM
    • It must have been purchased from an Apple Retail Store, Apple Online Store, or 1-800-MY-APPLE
  2. If you bought the case at an Apple store with a credit card, wait. Apple has already refunded your account and it may take up to one billing cycle for the refund to appear. You can check the status of your refund here.
  3. If you used cash, a check, or a gift card at an Apple store to buy a case, go back to the store by September 30, 2010. They will process a refund for you there.
  4. If you used a gift card on the Apple Online Store, wait for a new gift card in the amount of the refund in the mail.
  5. If you bought a bumper from an AT&T Store, fill out this rebate coupon. Mail it out, making sure it's postmarked no later than September 23, 2010. You will receive an email notification when your check is mailed.
Tips
  • This entire process should take about 5 minutes if you do this directly from your iPhone. Allow around 10 minutes if doing this on your computer.


Warnings
  • Unfortunately, each case has at least a 3 to 5 week waiting period before it will arrive at your house.


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7 Tips for Marrying a Man with Children

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Falling in love with someone can be more complicated as we age and change relationships, bringing our past lives in tow. When a relationship has to take account of someone else's children as well, it can be a difficult decision for you to make and should not be one that is taken lightly. Coping with someone else's children, especially when you are not used to raising children, can be an abrupt and disruptive change in life circumstances, although it can also be really rewarding. This article discusses the things that you need to address before saying "I do" to a man who has children already. Steps
  1. Consider how you feel about children. If you have never had children, what is the reason for this? Did the opportunity simply pass you by or don't you really want to have children? If you don't want or don't like children, this is already a warning signal - you will not be able to simply dismiss or ignore your intended's kids, and you won't be able to keep him away from his kids (at least, not if you're smart). On the other hand, if you like children but the chance has never come up before, this is a positive sign.
  2. Consider how your children will cope blending with a new family. If you have children of your own who still require your care, it is important to think through how you will facilitate their passage into a new family. It is important to let them spend time with your new man's children, so that they can get to know one another. This will also allow you to observe how they get along, and it provides an opening for you to hold a conversation with them later.
  3. Address any doubts that you might be feeling. The initial advice is that if you do have any doubts, it is either not the time to marry, or maybe it will never be the time to marry this man. These are the sorts of questions you need to ask yourself:

    • Can I manage a relationship that comes with children?
    • Can I cope becoming a step parent to someone else's children?
    • Is this something I can enjoy in the long-term (because it is for the long-term)?
    • Do I like the children? Do they like me?
    • Can I cope with any physical or emotional disabilities that any of the children have? Am I willing to take on the responsibilities that such care entails?
    • Am I willing to put in the time needed to teach, nurture, and raise these children as my own? Or at least to allow my man to raise his children and stay out of his way as he does so?
    • Is this love enduring enough to cope with the initial upheaval learning to parent new children will cause?
    • Are there other sources of support to help me and my proposed new spouse?
    • Will their mother be able to help or is she ill, absent, gone for good? Or, is she resentful and spiteful, and likely to make this hard for me?
  4. Be very honest with yourself. Love doesn't overcome a lot of challenging parental arrangements. You must be able to walk into this with your eyes wide open, expecting some resentment from the new children, from your own children (if any) and possibly from other people linked to the relationship, including the ex-wife, grandparents, and siblings of your husband-to-be.
  5. Consider the children first. While you may be feeling starry-eyed and blissful, the children may be wary and even dreading what's to come. Remember that his children were a part of his life before you were. And remember, too, that it's not going to be fair to make his children feel "less than" if and when you and your man choose to have a child of your own. There are a lot of very complex emotions and mechanisms that will come into play, particularly if your man is not the custodial parent of his children and your prior children live with the two of you - when they come to visit every other weekend, it's very likely they will already feel, not so much like guests, but more like intruders in the home. Any children that are the result of your marriage are their half-siblings - the prior children may love their sibling, but very much resent you. You must be prepared to cope with that, as well as policing your own instinct to see his children as threats to your own children. It sounds easier than it is in practice.
  6. Trial run things. It might be easier to test the waters by spending time together for a longer period rather than rushing into marriage. Even living together might be an option for you if that feels okay. Time will give you the opportunity to see if you are managing and it will let the children see that this new arrangement could work, giving them time to get used to it. On the other hand, time could also reveal that it isn't going to work, so be prepared for that possibility too.
  7. Be sensible, not selfish. When there are children involved, the complexity of having a romantic relationship increases manifold. Unlike when you were younger and children were not part of the romance equation, the romance now is fringed by the need to take into account what works for every person involved, not just for the two people in love. Despite the romantic notion shown in movies of large families melding together, the realities are much harder; more costly, more prone to friction, more likely to not work out. As such, it is really important to be sensible and not selfish in the decisions that you reach.
  8. If you do decide to go ahead, embrace the decision fully. If you have answered the questions, faced the doubts, and addressed the possible challenges, you have done the hard preparation work. Be conscious that the road ahead will not be smooth running but if you have taken the time to do the groundwork and you are fully aware of what might be ahead, it should be a journey filled with love, dedication, and the determination from both you and your spouse-to-be that this is going to work.
Tips
  • Spend a lot of time talking through these issues with the man you would like to marry. Both of you are equally responsible for a balanced, healthy and fully informed decision here.
  • If you want to have more children with this man, it is important that he is on board before you marry, and that both of you have discussed the challenges that this may present for existing children and for your finances, space, and lifestyle. Also take into account your age, your potential spouse's age and the age differences with existing children. While it might feel romantic now to want to have more children with this man, if this means children holding back both of you in your 50s and 60s from a less heavily child-responsible life, it may not appear so rosy. You need to face these issues well in advance and not simply "feel the love".
  • Where possible, it is also important to involve the children in making decisions about their lives ahead. Listen to them and learn from them.
  • Remember that children have no choices at all, they must simply deal with the decisions of the adults responsible for them. Think about how powerless you would feel in their position, and behave with care, compassion, and concern for them first. You can always choose what you wish to do, where you want to go. They must do as they are told.
Warnings
  • It's all too often that children of a previous marriage are as heartily resented by the new spouse as the new spouse is resented by those children. The difference is that, as the new spouse, you have much more power than they do. Be kind and understanding.
  • Don't assume that you will instantly step into the parental role in their eyes. Instead, assume the bearing of a kind and compassionate friend. Do not try to discipline these children - let your husband discipline his own children. By the same token, you should take responsibility to discipline your children, rather than handing over the parental reins to your new man.
  • Don't force your kids to call your new man "dad," especially if their father is still alive, whether or not he is involved in their lives. Don't force your new man's kids to call you "mom," either. Don't refer to him as "your dad." You will confuse them. It doesn't matter if their other parent is a convict, a druggie, a drunk, or an uninvolved jerk - both your and your man's kids will have complex, conflicted feelings about all of you at all times. The kids may love both of you and want to call you mom, dad, whatever - but doing that may make them feel like they are betraying their other parent. Don't push it - just let things happen naturally and at the kids' pace.
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Just Discovered: Apple's Safari Browser Has a Serious Privacy Leak. How to Fix it Now.

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
If you're using Safari right now, you could be open to a malicious attack via your autofill feature, which is enabled by default.[1] The autofill feature on the Safari could be letting a malicious site find out your personal details, such as your full name, where you work and live down to the city and state or province, and your email address. It's a problem disclosed recently (July 21, 2010), so if you're one of the 83 million users of versions 4 and 5 of Safari, you need to act now![2][3] Steps
  1. Open your Safari browser. If you have versions 4 or 5, proceed to disable your autofill. (You can check the version by clicking on "Safari" in the browser bar, letting the menu drop down, then clicking on "About Safari". A box will pop up showing you your current version.)
  2. Staying with the Safari drop-down menu, go to "Preferences".

  3. Click on the image that says "Autofill". The autofill box will open out in your browser.

  4. Uncheck the autofill box. In the autofill box, uncheck the box marked "Using info from my Address Book card".

    Prior to unchecking, still enabled.

    This is how it should look after unchecking the first line.
  5. Click the close button (small red circle upper left hand corner) and you're done. If you want, check to see that it worked by opening the autofill box one more time. The unchecked box should remain that way.
Tips
  • This autofill feature works even if you have never entered data on any website because it draws the information from your personal record in the local operating system address book.
  • This is an example of the auto-complete feature, which is different from the autofill feature. This autofill feature is not the same as the normal auto-complete data feature that remembers your text after typing it into a form.
  • If you have other versions of Safari, it's probably wise to do this as a precaution, until further information is known.
Warnings
  • It can take mere seconds to lift all of your personal information via this breach in Safari's browser.
Things You'll Need
  • Safari browser
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9 Tips for Making Running More Enjoyable

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
"Most important advice: just lace up your shoes, and get out the door. After that, it’s cake."
~ Leo Babauta, Zen Habits
Running can prove to be great exercise and a fantastic way to relieve stress. If you find yourself becoming bored with it, however, below are some ways to find your way back to enjoying it again. Steps
  1. Listen to music. Take your MP3 player or other portable music device and use it with headphones while running. Listen to some of your favorite, upbeat music to help keep you going while taking your mind off of your heavy breathing and how much farther you have to go.
  2. Switch it up. Run in different locations. Don’t always run around one track, your neighborhood, or on a treadmill. Having a change in scenery can be refreshing and enjoyable. You may want to scope suitable areas out beforehand, just to be on the safe side.
    • Try different running techniques, such as changing speed, running up and down hills, long runs, tempo running, cross country running, etc.[1]
    • Give barefoot running a go and see if you enjoy the change. Make sure to find soft areas to run on.
  3. Don’t run too hard. While it can be good to push yourself, know your limits and don’t go past them. Keep your pace at a good speed, and don’t go too far or too long. Repeatedly killing yourself will cause running to become something that you dread rather than something you enjoy.
    • Avoid competitive running when you're just in it for fun and fitness. Who are you really trying to beat?!
    • Put away the stopwatch. Learn to judge your pace by how it feels rather than by what the stopwatch is telling you.[2]
  4. Use mental training skills to overcome your mind-speak that suggests you stop.
    • Rehearse yourself through your motivation problem by stating the desired outcome (running half an hour every day); detailing the challenges that your mind keeps coming up with (feeling too tired, worried about unmade dinner, feeling sore, etc.) breaking the challenges up into a series of actions to let you break through the mental barriers.[3]
    • Rehearse running over and over in your mind to bring into line with the way that you act and think. End up by focusing on the good feelings that arise at the end of each running session.[4]
    • Reward yourself. It's a good idea to treat yourself after a run, to give you something additional to look forward besides the high from exercise.[5] It might be a coffee at a favorite local cafe, or a special show you'd like to watch. Keep it simple and enjoyable.
  5. Stretch. Several of the most common injuries that hinder runners can be prevented by stretching and exercises to increase muscle balance. Illio-Tibial (IT) Band syndrome, Patello-Femoral syndrome, and shin splints are all caused by such imbalances in strength and flexibility between different muscle groups. Prevention is possible with proper stretching and simple strength training exercises.
  6. Run properly. On the same note, use good running form. Technique can make the difference between a miserable and an exhilarating running session. Advice and feedback from experienced runners is always helpful, and running clubs exist for all levels of runners. Make sure you have proper running shoes, too. Anything that makes running more comfortable is likely to make it more enjoyable. Different people have different needs for support, impact cushioning, etc. Many shops that specialize in running shoes can offer advice on a shoe that will best complement your body and gait.
  7. Run with friends. Having other people around can help the workouts go by faster, makes it more fun, and will provide accountability to ensure you are keeping up with your workouts.[6]
    • If none of your friends are runners, find a group of people to run with. Check out local stores that specialize in running gear and advice. They will often organize running groups that you can join.
    • Take your dog running with you. A canine pal can be an enormous source of motivation, with the added benefit that both of you get much needed exercise.
  8. Have rest periods. Another important means for ensuring that you continue to enjoy your running experience is to build in adequate rest periods, to give your running muscles a break. If you are a sporty person, intersperse your running with swimming, bike riding, etc., to shake up the routine but stay consistent with the days that you run. This gives your running muscles a break and helps to keep running an enjoyable activity for you.[7]
  9. Learn to listen to yourself. Know the difference between the usual run-of-the-mill aches and pains that you can push past and real injuries that need attention. Eat well, and sleep well. If you're having a day where your emotional self is really out of whack, think about whether or not a run will clear your mind or just make things worse. Get the balance right, and you'll continue to enjoy running.[8]
Video Tips
  • Running isn’t for everyone. If you have joint problems, or just can’t seem to enjoy it no matter what you try, consider another workout. There are tons of ways to get good exercise and stay healthy - and there is definitely something for everyone, but it may take a little exploring.
  • Eat an energy bar if you're feeling low on energy with some water or a caffeinated drink about half an hour prior to running. This will help improve your energy levels.[9]
Things You'll Need
  • Good quality running gear – get properly fitted for shoes and remember that expensive isn't necessarily the best
  • Interesting running routes
  • MP3 player
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Want to Check Your Microwave for Leaks? Put Your Mobile Phone In It.

Wiki How - 1 hour 42 sec ago
Being exposed to high levels of microwave radiation can cause health problems, such as cataracts and burns.[1] While most microwave oven leaks are considered to be too small to create such significant health risks,[2] a microwave that is leaking radiation could cause unknown health risks and isn't likely to be as efficient as it should be. In this tutorial you will learn how to check your microwave for radiation leakage, and no special tools or experience are required. Steps Wireless Netbook method

This method works best because microwaves and wireless networks operate on very nearly the same electromagnetic frequency (between 2.4 and 2.5 GHz).

  1. Unplug your microwave from the power socket. For wall switches, remove the whole electric plug from the wall socket (power point) rather than simply turning off the switch.
  2. Check that your netbook has a working 802.11 wireless card and is on your local network.
  3. Place the netbook in the microwave. Do not turn the microwave on!
  4. Close the microwave door.
  5. Ping your netbook. If the ping is answered, the microwave leaks radiation. If the packets time out, everything is fine.
Cell phone method

This method is demonstrated in the video below.

  1. Put your cell phone in the microwave. Shut the door.
  2. Do not turn on the microwave!
  3. Dial the number of your cell phone. If it rings, you have a leak. If it doesn't ring, your microwave oven is fine.
Fluorescent light method

This method only works for large leaks.[3]

  1. Find a fluorescent tube.
  2. Darken the room.
  3. Hold it against the edges of the microwave oven's door when the oven is in use. While normally it is not recommended to use the microwave with nothing inside it, in this short experiment, it is best not to add anything to the oven. If your microwave oven is pre-1980s, however, add a glass of water.
  4. Check for a reaction. If there is microwave leakage occurring, the bulb will glow.
What to do next

If you find a leak, or you still believe that there might be a leak even if these tests have not proven anything to your satisfaction, here are some suggestions for what to do next.

  1. Check the hinges, latch, center door panel, and seal of the door. If microwave radiation is leaking, it is usually as a result of worn or broken elements on the microwave oven's door. Any of the following signs could indicate leakage:
    • Look for cracks on the hinges or seals
    • Look for worn seals
    • Look for dents or breaks in the door itself.
  2. Take the microwave to a professional repair shop for testing and fixing. Note that the FDA in the USA does not certify any home leakage protectors, which can sell anywhere from around US$10-50. In fact, the FDA states that it has tested a number of these and found them inaccurate and unreliable, and says that they should be used only for an approximation of leakage.[4] The reality is that proper testing requires expensive equipment using a radio-frequency radiation probe, which is not only expensive but also requires technical training to operate. Such sophisticated testing devices used by public health authorities to measure oven leakage are far more accurate, as well as being periodically tested and calibrated. Hence, the FDA recommends the following:
    • Don't operate an oven if the door does not close firmly or is bent, warped, or otherwise damaged.
    • Contact the oven manufacturer, a microwave oven service organization, your state health department, or the nearest FDA office for checking any leakage issue you are concerned about.
Video Tips
  • Microwave ovens emit non-ionizing radiation in the form of radio waves in the 2.4 GHz frequency range, which are called microwaves. This radiation is not the ionizing radiation caused by the decay of radioactive elements or isotopes (X-rays and gamma rays) and is emitted only when the microwave oven is switched on.[5]
  • Microwaves have three characteristics that allow them to be used in cooking: they are reflected by metal; they pass through glass, paper, plastic, and similar materials; and they are absorbed by foods.[6]
  • Many people simply refuse to use microwave ovens for fear of the unhealthiness of the food cooked in this manner. If it really bothers you, don't own one. There is still much study to be done to determine accurately what constitutes a safe level of exposure to microwave radiation.[7]
  • If your microwave is very old, recycle it. If freecycling or donating a leaking microwave, leave a clearly taped note on it that you think the oven is leaking, so that people receiving it can make a decision to repair or recycle.
Warnings
  • Do not turn the microwave on while the netbook or cell phone (mobile phone) is inside.
  • The most dangerous thing about using a properly maintained microwave is burning yourself if you don't handle the cooked items properly.[8]
  • Microwaves operate by exciting a magnetron (radio frequency generator) with high voltage typically around the 2 KV range (2,000 Volts, 0.5 Amps), this is deadly voltage and current. This can kill you.
  • The Method Presented is not fail safe and should not replace a competent technician using proper equipment to test for leaks!
Things You'll Need
  • Microwave oven
  • Netbook or cell phone or fluorescent tube
  • Repair store if there is a problem
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How to Treat a Puncture Wound

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Did you know that puncture wounds account for 5 percent of the admission reasons for children going to emergency centers?[1] Puncture wounds occur when a narrow, pointed object such as a nail, tack, stick, or other similar sharp object pierces the skin. These wounds tend to be narrow and can be quite deep if the object was driven into the skin with substantial force.

Puncture wounds require different care from other wounds. Read on to learn what you need to do.

Steps
  1. Treat immediately. Provided a puncture wound is attended to quickly, it will usually not become serious. If left unattended, however, infection introduced through the puncture site can become life-threatening for the patient.
  2. Reassure the patient. This is especially important for children and for people who don't cope very well with pain. Help them to remain calm while you treat the wound.
  3. Remove the object (small objects only, Never remove anything larger than 1cm in depth or 1cm in width, this must be done by a doctor).

    • Make sure that there are no splinters or other pieces of the object remaining in the wound if you can. If you don't get everything out, infection is more likely.
    • Do not remove the object if there is major bleeding. The object may be helping to close off and clot severed vessels. Removing it will remove the clot and cause more extensive bleeding. In this case support the object and minimise movement until medical assistance arrives.
  4. Permit the wound to bleed for a few minutes, this will flush the wound of any bodies. Puncture wounds usually do not bleed profusely.[2] If bleeding is not severe, allowing the wound to bleed for about 2 minutes will help to cleanse the wound.[3]
  5. Stop the bleeding. Use direct pressure to the wound -- apply this using a clean cloth bunched up in your hand. The bleeding should stop within a few minutes.
  6. Clean the wound. Use salt and warm water to clean the wound.
    • Make sure that the cleaning has not revealed any other embedded objects. Dirt or other objects can remain embedded in the skin if not removed. If this is the case seek medical assisstance.
  7. Bandage the wound if it requires protection. Because puncture wounds do not tend to be very large in size and are not prone to bleeding, you may not need a bandage for it. However, puncture wounds to the feet or other places that get dirty may require a bandage to prevent the entry of more dirt, etc.
    • Allow the wound to dry thoroughly before covering it with a bandage.
    • Use a porous adhesive dressing. Change daily to ensure that the wound stays healthy and dry.[4]
  8. Know when to see the doctor. The following symptoms suggest that you need medical help:
    • Swelling
    • Redness
    • Pus
    • A concern that debris remains in the wound
    • Tetanus vaccination is not up-to-date (see next step).
  9. Seepage from a puncture wound is normal, this is the body expelling infection along with plasma. so long as the discharge does not smell or become thick, then there is no cause for concern.
  10. Get a tetanus shot if needed. Use the following guidelines to determine if the patient needs a tetanus shot (and contact your doctor for advice):[5]

    • If more than 10 years have passed since the patient last had a tetanus shot.
    • If the object causing the injury was dirty or rusty (or you are not sure whether or not it was dirty), and more than 5 years have passed since the patient last had a tetanus shot.
    • The patient is not sure when the last shot was.
    • The patient has never received a tetanus shot.
Video Tips
  • Small puncture wounds are usually not very serious and do not require professional medical attention.
Warnings
  • Be sure to watch for signs of infection around the wound site until it heals. Symptoms such as redness, swelling, throbbing, red streaks or pus may indicate an infection.[6]
Things You'll Need
  • Salt
  • Bandage
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10 Ways to Put an End to Your Mean Streak

Wiki How - 1 hour 43 sec ago
Put aside your anger and actually be nice to someone, no matter how mean you feel you have become. You can become "one of the nicest people" you'll ever meet, but bear in mind that you are the only one who can make this significant change. Here are some steps to put an end to your meanness. Steps
  1. Find the root of your anger and defensiveness. Are you mean to people because you like them, you're jealous of them, or you can't seem to find their good points? Do you feel as if you're "getting back at the world" for having treated you badly? In reality, it doesn't work that way--you get back what you put out and meanness will rebound on you. Instead, learn to let go of anger and resentment; seek professional counseling if you can't do this by yourself.
  2. Turn any insult, mean comment, or unkind statement that you are about to say into a compliment. While trying to turn over a new leaf, you will find the mean voice continues to pop into your head. Instead of letting it speak for you, however, balance it with your thinking voice that can translate the mean words into compliments or kind statements. For instance:
    • "You are so annoying" turns into "You are so confident in yourself all the time, it's great."
    • "That's an ugly shirt" turns into "That's a really interesting pattern on your shirt."
    • "You're so loud and bossy" turns into "You always know what you want out of life, I wish I had that strength of purpose."
    • "You are such a know-it-all" turns into "You're always concerned about me putting my foot in it but you must let me make my own mistakes sometimes."
    • Instead of turning away, give a hug.
  3. Adjust your negative criticism. Try using the sandwich-style-style critique instead of being blatantly negative about someone's actions or words. Start with a compliment about the person, then say something "constructive" about what has gone wrong or bothers you, then end with another compliment. Other ways to adjust your preference to say things negatively include thinking through how this comes across to others:
    • Ask yourself: "If I say this, will it really have a positive effect, or could it have a negative one?. Will I hurt this person, If I say this, or act this way?"
    • Check yourself. When you are talking to people, think "Am I saying this in the nicest way I can?"
    • Is it how you would like someone saying something to you?
    • Know the difference between assuming that you know better; even where you do, nobody wants their nose rubbed in superiority.
  4. Keep other people's feelings in mind, all the time. It's an old but true phrase: If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all.
    • Put yourself in other people's shoes. How would you feel if other people treated you the same way?
  5. Don't judge people before you discover what they're really all about. First impressions can often be misleading, and couched in your own biases. Get to know people before you decide you don't like them.
  6. Realize that the world doesn't revolve around you, and you aren't the only one with strong feelings or problems.
    • Consider the reason why you don't like someone. Could it be possible that they are a lot like you, and the things you don't like are the things you do too?
  7. Take mental notes from people you know who are nice. Notice the differences between what you both say and do to other people. Put into practice some of the things you have learned and see how differently people respond to you.
  8. Lend a hand or a shoulder to someone who isn't at the top of your favorites list. Make that effort and see what you get back - maybe nothing, or just maybe you'll discover your best friend.
    • Offer to help. If you see someone struggling or doing anything, offer to help, even doing something as simple as carrying a bag of groceries. Offering help will take you out of your comfort zone initially but you'll end up feeling good about yourself when your help is accepted.
  9. Use a reminder prop to pull back your attitude. Wear an elastic band around your wrist. When you feel you are about to say something mean, give the band a snap to discourage yourself.
  10. If you are still having trouble accomplishing this task, surround yourself with others who can help you. While the process can be challenging, seek support from friends and family who can guide you to slowly alter your personality. The best way to ultimately change this habit is to be held accountable for your actions by people you trust.
Video Tips
  • Before doing anything quickly ask yourself: "Will this thought/action/comment make the world a better place for me, or anyone else?" If not - don't do it and save yourself the repercussions. There's no point expending effort in making yourself or others unhappy. Ever.
  • Tell yourself constantly that you're a nice person so that your mind begins to accept that you are. Change your behavior accordingly to fit these new standards. Thinking you're one of the "good people" instead of a "bad person" can really make a difference to how you act. Your mind will react positively.
  • Resist judging people if they are not nice to you. You shouldn't judge people anyway. There is always someone nice inside everybody, even those whose insecurity causes them to be mean to you.
  • Like all habits, this one will be hard to stop. With perseverance, however, your defensive meanness will change.
  • Smile. A smile will let people know that you are pleasant and inviting. If you smile at someone, look them in the eye.
  • Ask people how they are doing. Take the time to ask someone how things are going in their lives, without being nosy or intrusive. If they seem resistant to talking, just let them know that you're always around to talk to, and that you want them to be alright.
  • Be a good listener. Listen when other people are talking to you.
  • Be courteous, patient, observant, and considerate. And be positive. Don't be negative or critical. Keep looking for the positive in any given situation.
  • Be humble. The key to being nice is remembering that you are not "better" than someone else. You're an individual, but everybody has their struggles, and being nice to one another makes life better for everyone.
  • Be sincere. Don't be nice as a means to an end. If you just want to be nice so that you can gain preferential treatment, it's quite the opposite of being nice -- it's deceptive, shallow and cruel. Be nice because you want to look back on your life and know that you were a nice person, no matter what.
  • Don't lie. You will go on to do good things if you refrain from lying.
Warnings
  • If you live your life being mean to everyone, you're only going to end up lonely. Nobody wants to be around mean people.
  • What goes around comes around. If you are a mean person, others will probably be mean to you as well.
  • Being mean isn't logical, and will therefore cause you to lose each time.
  • Don't spread rumors; they are not only pointless but they confirm that you're behaving as low as you can go.
  • Don't be so arrogant as to assume that you have a role in changing another person for the better. You can be constructive with suggestions but don't try to change them to something that they're not capable of being, or don't want to become. It's very likely that there is something deep within you that needs the change more than the other person.
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